Friday, August 22, 2008

Telling Your Story

Quite possibly, there is no more popular genre of creative writing right now than the memoir. Memoirs are, I believe, difficult to write. To do it well, a writer must be willing to tell the truth about herself, to reveal limitations and failings as well as strengths and accomplishments, to expose thoughts and actions that we are usually reluctant to reveal, to disclose lapses of judgment, questions of faith, discontent in relationships.

Memoirs are difficult, too, because they require us to interpret ourselves. Although we may attempt to be objective, no one can tell her life story without putting a spin on it, slanting it in some way according to her beliefs about herself, others, and the world around her. We even “interpret” our stories by choosing which events and people we will include and which we’ll exclude, or by how we “remember” dialogue.

Additionally, the author of a memoir must be willing to risk angering, alienating, and/or hurting others. Because no one’s an island, writing a memoir necessitates the telling of stories not our own, at least where they interconnect with ours, and the author’s representation or interpretation of these people and events might not align with the self-concepts or ideals of the people who inhabit and intersect the author’s life story. Sometimes a memoir deals with a change in worldview, and those who continue to adhere to the belief systems left behind are often offended by the author’s analysis, disavowal, and conclusions.

Much of the difficulty of memoirs lies in the fact that we usually choose to write about events that have strong emotional resonance with us. Writing a memoir provides a cathartic experience as the author remembers and is forced to analyze the tensions and obstacles of her life, how they affected her, changed her, and how she has overcome or maybe even just survived. Then she must decide how to present all this to her intended audience to the best effect. The author cannot play it safe. Without conflict, there is no story; surviving conflict in its various forms is what makes a memoir interesting and worthy. But the author must also be real. The reader must believe her, identify with her in some way, and care about her. Why else would a reader give up hours of his life to read about hers?

So, if memoir-writing can be so difficult and even painful, why would a serious writer choose to suffer through the process? I believe it is because a true writer realizes that with her gift also comes responsibility, a responsibility to think about life deeply and to share the insights she gleans with others. Some do it in their poetry, some in their fiction, but in these genres the authors can always hide behind a persona or their characters. Some authors produce essays, yet here authors can choose to remain at a professional distance. But those who lay themselves bare in a memoir must feel that the story they have to tell is so necessary for the world to hear that it is worth the personal risk involved. I’m grateful for their courage.

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